FAQ: How can I set boundaries gently with my breastfed toddler
Breastfeeding is a relationship between the mother and her baby. There are two parties involved and both are important.
WHO recommends that a baby should be breastfed for a minimum of 2 years and beyond. As the baby grows older than that, some mothers may find it difficult to continue to nurse the child due to various reasons listed below and many more.
It is important to acknowledge the mother's needs from time to time while not ignoring the child’s needs. In some cases, weaning altogether may be too difficult not just for the child, but even for the mother. That’s when boundary setting can carve a beautiful way out to continue nursing while taking the needs of both mother and baby into account.
Boundary Setting Techniques:
It is important to understand that this is different from gentle mother-led weaning as here, the focus is not on cutting down the nursing sessions. The focus is on increasing and enhancing the mother’s comfort level. Also, these boundaries are set very gradually over time and with children above the age of 2 years. They can be talked and reasoned about with the child. Some commonly used boundaries are as follows..
These are just examples. Boundaries can be introduced to address the individual circumstances and situational demands faced by the mother-child dyad. Thus, a mother can design and set her own boundaries depending on her own needs. More boundaries can be introduced with time.
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