Child-led Weaning (Natural Term Weaning)
As the name suggests, child-led weaning means that the child’s needs and wishes are followed over anything else while weaning the child. This is also called self-weaning. It means that the child is breastfed until she outgrows the need for it. Another increasingly used term is ‘natural term weaning’; which again implies that the process of weaning does not involve any external interventions and takes place completely naturally.
When does natural term weaning occur?
It is said that a child who is nursed on demand gradually outgrows the need to breastfeed as she becomes more and more dependent on solids for all her nutritional needs and as she becomes secured enough emotionally to be able to let go of comfort nursing as well. This typically happens between the age of 3 and 7 years. Some children might wean a little earlier than 3 years whereas some might go on to nurse for longer than 7 yeast as well.
Creating a supportive environment for natural term weaning:
Supporting the mother
- When a mother has access to knowledge and information about breastfeeding, she is more likely to continue nursing for a longer time.
- When a mother feels comfortable nursing her older child in the presence of her support system, she is more likely to continue nursing her child for as long as the child desires.
- It is important that the mother feels supported and encouraged by her medical support system as well. This includes her GP, paediatrician and other healthcare providers.
- The community at large should be supportive of breastfeeding.
Supporting the child
- When the child is always nursed responsively, the child gains emotional security in her breastfeeding relationship with her mother.
- The child should never be shamed or punished for expressing her need to nurse.
- Direct or indirect interventions should be avoided.
How to cope along the journey of natural term weaning?
It can be exhausting and overwhelming to nurse a toddler when it’s the path of natural term weaning one has embarked upon. It is important to acknowledge the mother’s needs from time to time while not ignoring the child’s needs. Following guidelines can be handy to cope on tough days.
1. Setting boundaries
It is important to understand that this is different from gentle mother-led weaning as here, the focus is not on cutting down the nursing sessions. The focus is on increasing and enhancing the mother’s comfort level. Also, these boundaries are set very gradually over time and with children above the age of 3 years. They can be talked and reasoned about with the child. Some commonly used boundaries are as follows..
- No more nursing outdoors. This includes parks, cafes, malls etc.
- No more nursing just because of boredom. It can also help the child identify her moods and encourage her to find ways to keep herself engaged in activities.
- No more nursing at mealtimes.
2. Not giving up on a bad day
Sometimes, the going can get really tough. A mother might feel extremely overwhelmed and touched out. It is important to address these feelings if they persist. And if weaning can help her feel better, it should be considered. However, a bad/tough day here and there may not call for such drastic measures.
3. Talk to the child when you are overwhelmed
Children can be reasoned with. Also, children who are secured in the breastfeeding relationship are less resistant to give up on a couple of feeds once in a while, if they are explained why it is required. Talking to the child when the mother needs a break on tiring days is a great technique to pause and cope.